I’ve been hitting the gym which is good. On the other hand I’ve never been an excessive drinker but I’ve been putting em down a bit too much recently. I know it’s not good for me, but it’s tough. My W went out with my mom the other day, they both really enjoyed it, no harm done. I have a lot of 180’s to do, I am currently working on two minor ones, so that’s good.
I had the kids all weekend and between my W and I it’s always been me that’s done more of the discipline when it comes to the kids. I disciplined them a fair amount over the weekend and I feel a little bad because I don’t see them as much as I used to and I want to make sure they have positive experiences when there with me. I also know my son is having a really hard time with this transition so I need to lighten up on the discipline a bit. I will be seeing my IC in about a week so that’s always good for me. I work on base income plus bonuses. If I can start getting some good bonuses within the next couple months, that will help out in so many ways.
I found myself chatting with a couple ladies on FB, I should probably avoid that. I know this sounds like common sense but I came to the conclusion that it seems so easy for me to do the wrong things and so hard to do the right things.
It’s very ironic that my W and I have the same birthday. She’s even talked about how hard that day will be. It’s coming up pretty soon. I wonder if I should just send her a simple happy birthday email, get her something small, or do nothing. I am leaning towards a brief happy birthday email. Any thoughts?
Here’s another thing I was hoping to get advise on. Our son really wants the entire family to spend the day together, unfortunately that’s just not going to happen right now. Since the separation I have done a really good job at not pursuing her. So I am trying to come up with a happy medium. I am thinking about taking the kids out to dinner sometime in the next couple days and telling my W that” I am taking the kids out to dinner and it’s no big deal if you don’t come however it would be nice to have you join us.” What do any of you think? Not a good idea or ok to mention?
Once again, I want to thank all of you for reading my thread and I really value your input. It means a lot.
Me(M):37 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 8 D: 4 W wanted separation 5/5 Stopped living together 5/5 Currently in DB stage
“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude”. Thomas Jefferson
