I am about 4 months ahead of you. I am kinda in the same boat about how to talk to my W at times.
What do you want to talk to her about? About the status of things I mean clearly she's in the house to so she's not blind as to what's going on.
You haven't given a lot of detail about what life @ home is like. Are you sleeping the same bed? are you intimate? in what ways? how does she treat you? do you spend time alone together?
From there you can base on what you want to talk about.
My W and I had a couple conversations about this. She always says this about starting conversations "You just have to." To my W, these conversations are also about rebuilding intimacy.
If you do bring things up, I'd be positive. I'd try to pick good times to talk - when you are both running out the door, or she is stressed or the kids are running around - are clearly not good times.
maybe you could started with a quick comment like "Hey, I just wanted to......" then leave it at that. Make it short to the point. if you want something from her be clear and direct. Tell you you don't want an answer right away, but to think on it.
just some thoughts.
Patience is bitter, but its fruit is sweet. --Jean Jacques Rousseau.
