Blood on the Tracks

[tested metal]

Well she told me that if she got Head of Household for tax break purposes (as she now makes less than me), she would split the break that she would get for daycare. I told her it seems fair, but I want it in writing. She is really mad about the going by last years tax return, but the court was going to make us go by it anyway, they usually do.

She is still refusing that I have primary residential regarding school for D1, saying that "I don't plan to live here for too long, before I move back into your town." I replied, "then you should not have a problem with agreeing to it anyway as I don't plan on moving."

Last night I texted her stating that we needed to talk to clear the air and lay all the cards on the table as I am sick of the cold war. There is no reply yet and I am not expecting one.

Meeting her may be a mistake, but I figured that it would be one of closure for me as I will have had a chance to clearly state my position and why I am doing the things I am doing regarding divorce. It also gives me a chance to hear her side.

I figure it is a win win because I can sleep better because she will have made an fully informed decision, it is a chance for her to earn trust, and I will be able to see her true motives if I get double crossed.

I also accepted that getting double crossed is a big risk, but from what I can see so far, I have covered my butt enough where there is not much damage she could do.

I am not going to plead, beg, pursue, etc. I just want to see where we are at regarding how well we can get along as parents of our D and as human beings in general.