I agree cat, I thought that's what happened on the boards.
People respond to posts because they feel a connection, not because they have to.
A variety of responders is the best scenario because you never know what might be the one thing that makes sense to the reader. It's also helpful to others reading not just the author of the thread.
As for specific "vets"---when people are on moderation I advise them to dig into the archives, they are a treasure trove of information. I found folks whose words spoke to me and then dug for old posts of theirs. The situations we each find ourselves in are not that different. A lot of the advice holds true across the board. Yes, this is a personal journey but we all share characteristics (how many of us are controlling/fixer/perfectionists? raise your hands) and can learn from the same advice, even if it is 5 years old.
Trying new things is good, tho. We don't learn and grow without change.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss