25, parental alienation is one dicey topic. He said, she said, etc. Did s/he actually say it? In times of high duress like these, it's so easy to gravitate towards "worst case scenarios".
I'm not disagreeing with being prepared for the worst. Believe me, my guard has been up and will stay up for awhile until proven otherwise. People say I'm stupid/naive/unrealistic to be docile and/or forgiving, especially after the venomous things that have been done/said by my wife, but I believe that (as part of my 180) I need to be Christ-like, i.e. gracious yet vigilant, humble yet wise. The moment I give up and say "I'm only human", the devil has done his work. After all, that's WHY Jesus came among us and instructed us to be more LIKE HIM. I'm not perfect, but to stay imperfect is folly.
Oops, sorry for digressing and the little sermonette (it IS Sunday!).
So yes, I'm aware of the seriousness of my wife's actions (in each case, even if they were encouraged by her attorney, family and/or friends, she made the final decision, therefore I hold her accountable), and have created the necessary tools to protect ourselves (our son and I). Now, if there's ever a change of heart on her part, then I would gladly drop everything and work on creating something new and better WITH her. Of course, I/we would need to create a new set of tools to manage that situation.
UPDATE On Friday sent my wife an email to ask if I can have supervised time with our son on Sunday (from church time until afternoon).
On Saturday she responds saying that they already have plans. Hmm, baloney is all I can say; she knows that one of the main things our son has in his life right now is his church, and that I've only seen him twice this week (counting last Sunday). Our son's best interest? I don't think so.
This morning I sent her another email asking if I can talk to our son before he goes to bed tonight. She responded: "that will be fine. Call at 7".
So I call at exactly 7 and guess what, no one picks up the phone. She calls @ 7:05 but guess what, she had not prepped our son for the call. I didn't even get to say a single word to him because he was playing with a friend. Any signs of cooperation and co-parenting? You tell me.
This wasn't the only time either. Last Sunday she dropped our son off late with me and my supervisor (she said they had overslept, but I think I remember that there's a device called an alarm clock); it was Sunday worship, but our son had disheveled hair and crinkly clothes. On Tuesday, she did not follow instructions to pick our son from my place even though I had specifically said so TWICE via email...Okay, now I just sound like I'm whining. Anyway, my legal team is aware of all these, so we'll see what direction they suggest.
We have at least two more days of court sessions. Tomorrow's pm session will be my wife's testimonial and cross-exam, while Tuesday morning will be my turn on the stand. Thanks so much y'all for praying for ALL of us during this whole ordeal, and I ask y'all to do the same for us this week.
