PH, I am finding that it is best to avoid any interference with the MLCer/kid R. Of course you need to intervene with safety issues, but anything else, leave alone.
If you hover, you become the primary parent and the MLer is "helping" you.
M: 16 years Bomb 4/07 OW 20s long gone Divorced 11/09 I remarried New Guy Cooperative r w/X regarding D