I think he left the stuff behind because he is in a little studio apartment and plans to move again. In the meantime he feels entitled to store whatever he wants in my garage. I could be firm and tell him to take his things, but they're not in the way so it's not a big deal. I'm picking and choosing what to make an issue of at this point.
He's still dragging out the refi. I don't know why he took all of the initiative and now I've heard nothing for two weeks. As far as I knew everything was done except for our signatures. His attorney told mine that as far as he knows it's going forward. Until it's done I'm keeping my mouth shut about everything else.
Today I'm gathering all of the documents that my attorney wants. What a pain! I'm pretty sure things are going to get contentious when my H realizes what he will need to pay over the long haul. He's especially going to be upset when he finds out that he will need to give me 50% of the bonus he received several months ago because it was based on last year's performance. I have put all of this off for as long as I could, mainly because I still had hope that we would reconcile and I did not want to push him further away. All I did was enable him and I suffered in the meantime. No more of that. I'm not responsible for the fallout. He has to live with what he created - damaged relationships and financial disaster. His gf better be exceptional. She'll be forced to try and make him happy despite all of this. Good luck with that!
