KD-I agree I can't change my stitch with words. I have learned that the hard way. I know I can't control anyone else but me.

I also I agree that if I say what I have to say about the OMs that it will not change her or fix my M. It really would be to change my behavior as a nice guy and would be doing it for me as I'm done walking on eggshells.

I ask myself when is enough enough and I know I can only answer that. I know how I have contributed to my M problems but at this point I feel like waiting for her to make up her mind as to if she wants to work on our M or choose one of the many guys and that is just crap to me.

I know I need to move on with life but I really can't move on all the way being in this stitch. I can work on me but I don't feel like I can share me with someone while in this situation. I guess thats why I don't think all my resentment will go away until this thing goes somewhere.

I guess its time to detach and work more on me to make things habit. My goal is to go through the NMMNG tasks and do them.


Me:29
W:28
S:2
M: 5 years
Bomb: 7-26-11
Separated: 8-20-11
EA w/ multiple OMs
W filed 1/2012