Hey, Opt, I don't think I've posted to you before, but I have been trying to keep up with your situation somewhat.
This is such incredibly wonderful news. I'm sitting here with tears running down my face, but with the biggest smile. I'm so very happy for you.
What jumped out at me especially were your H's words, "We're going to fix this." When a man gets that notion into his head, he'll do whatever it takes to get the job done. My H said much the same thing to our kids, "Mom and I are going to make it." And, we have!!
Holdingon's advice was perfect. Let him do all the talking. Just listen and validate. You may hear some hurtful things, but you want him to feel safe enough with you to unload everything -- good and bad.
The real work of "piecing" is just beginning. Good luck and God Bless.
