In yesterday's mail there was a card for my H from his aunt. I can't imagine that he hasn't told her that he moved out over six months ago.If he didn't I'm sure his sister did. I also continue to receive all of his other mail including his credit card statement. He hasn't even changed his address with the marketing department at work. His name is still on the utilities, insurance, etc. He only changed his address with payroll. What's with this? He still has clothes, memorabilia and books in the garage. He has searched for things a few times when he's picked up the boys. Why not just take it? It would take five minutes to throw boxes in the car. If I had moved I would want all of my belongings and I certainly would want to receive my mail.
A few weeks ago when he took the initiative to pay the AAA renewal (he needed his car towed and I hadn't renewed yet) he could have easily just updated the account and told me I was responsible for my own membership. Instead, he tells me he's paid it and I'll receive our cards.
I know I should tell him to get his things and change his address. That will be even more of a reality check. I will in due time. In the meantime, it's as if he's just working away from home. He's not here, but the rest hasn't changed.
It's been a week since he last spewed at me. It's so much better having zero contact, but we can't keep it up forever. He will have to contact me regarding visitation with the kids. It won't surprise me if he has his lawyer contact mine to set something up. He knows I'm done with his ridiculous behavior. That's where the threats came from. I stood my ground with him and was pretty calm.
