We have been seeing each other only a month but it really goes back a ways.
We have known each other for 17 years. We worked together back then at one of the large international accounting firms and we became friends.
Good friends. We were both married then and so were conscious of placing the boundaries on our friendship.
Fast forward. I had not really seen her in some years. She divorced 3 years ago. She has two boys 10 and 11.
When I moved back to town she was dating someone and of course I was here trying to save my M.
She contacted me to catch up and asked how I was doing. She knew about my sitch from friends. That was a month ago.
We have seen each other at every opportunity since then.
It has been strange because this connection we always had, and maybe both recognized under our friendship, now is allowed to flourish without compromising ourselves or our commitments.
I am here to say that we both see our future right now with each other.
That feels good. And the person who is showing up right now is a resonance of what I deserve and want in someone I will share my life.
I wrote once I will never again accept anything less in a relationship than what I am willing to give myself.
That is what I see in this woman.
It is new ground for me. I have accepted less in the past because I didn't feel worthy or thought if I gave it would eventually work out. I taught my partners how to treat me.
This is different.
Now for some of your thoughts my friends. We want to be very purposeful and considerate of her children. I have never met them.
Our thinking is to let some time pass for our relationship to take hold before venturing any contact.
We also don't want any accidental meetings so we don't see eachother unless there is no chance of the children meeting me by accident.
That usually means she gets a sitter and we go out.
This is new for me. As you all know I don't have kids and I have never dated anyone who had them until recently.
She is certainly the only person I have considered a committed relationship.
I AM in a committed relationship with her as we stand here today.
So any advice or perspectives on this?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
