All this is definitely off the conversation topic list for a good while yet! I don't think I have any choice but to implement the lrt so for me to start discussions such as this is off limits anyway. She did bring up the child issue in or last conversation but it was just used as a way of trying to convince me she was gone, "kids would have been the end of me and I never would have between able to leave if we'd had a child, because I would have felt too guilty."