W told me she is done & doesn't love me anymore-P3

[Snowman]

Ok, I have calmed down from being mad but I still question my situation. I know I'm making the changes for me and I am including the No More Mr. Nice Guy in that. I think to myself why can't I just come out and say it to her that "She is involved with other men and I'm not ok with that. If that is what you want then so be it."

I honestly don't know at this point if I would want to have a R with someone who will have EAs with multiple men at once while lying to me/OMs and making up these grand apologies while doing this.

I have tried to be responsible for my W's happiness and I think I held her responsible for mine. More nice guy behavior. I can continue as is and just let her keep sucking me in and out of the roller-coaster or I can starting saying the truth and sharing what I want.

I think I'm so attached to the outcome of things I'm afraid to do anything. This fear has created resentment and is ruining my life. I feel so much like I'm D already that other people think I am which I know doesn't matter.

Thinking about our M I now remember my W would text a single guy stuff even years back that I knew about because she told me and I did meet him but heck I didn't know what was being said and I told her it needed to stop and it never really did. This behavior has been on going for quite sometime and me being the nice guy has as well.

I just feel like I'm swirling and going no where again. Need advice please.