Serve yourself up some patience and some more patience.
Practice being QUIET.
Put all fears, anxiety, concerns away.
DO NOT THINK, TALK, SPEAK about OW in ANY WAY. Do not put her in the house with you, on the phone with you. Do NOT bring her up. If H brings her up, listen... without blame.
Act as if everything in wonderful.
Put Opts needs and wants aside. Make this all about H for now.
No demands regarding OW, finances, future, etc.
Everytime you get anxious or frustrated, remember 72 hours ago... not knowing when, where, why about H and then think about NOW... H is HOME. H came HOME to ME.
Don't ASSUME anything... neither positive or negative.
Have NO expectations.
Remember in your heart he said "we are going to fix this."
YOU give me SUCH HOPE!!
You are a strong woman, you have been through HELL, you can and will do this... but let him lead, show him you trust him to lead.
I am so proud of you that you waited this out!
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
