So my W tells me last night that she is going to IC next week. Tells me she sees all the effort that I'm putting in, and logically thinking should be able to put effort into the R but still doesn't know if she can or wants to take down the walls she put up. She told her mom about or sitch yesterday, which was a huge step for her, as I know she doesn't want to put anymore stress on her. Her mom told her to talk to C. We both feel the best thing for kids is to have the family together, I told W if her or C thought that I should talk that I was more than willing to participate. I have been keeping my 180's constant. I'm taking this as a positive step for her/us and hoping for the best.