what may help you to move through to the other side of this, is to let go of your own feelings about this guy on FB. if you keep focusing on that, then you take away your focus completely from finding out what works.
If I have to bring up the R with this guy again, I will use starsky's exact words.
And it will be accompianied by D papers.
that's anger, resentment, and all the piled up feelings of hurt that you feel from her. those are the things you have to focus on removing from within yourself - they emanate from you and that's what she FEELS from you - your judgement about what she is doing or not doing, your constant reminders that she's messing up.
so she feels all that negative stuff from you. then is it any surprise that she looks away and towards something ELSE for more positive feedback?
work through your stuff on your own and remove it from the energy between you and focus on how to give her positive feedback so that she has a damn good reason for wanting to get it from you. your above statement would be the exact opposite of that
love breeds more love. how much love is there in that statement you made?
it's hard for all of us to set aside our deep feelings that are so understandably there, as dbmod said - it feels agonizing to acknowledge them and STILL have to rise above them in order to reach our goals
but look at it this way - that is exactly what we are wanting our WAS's to do - rise above their negative feelings for us and make things good again. if we can't do that - how on earth can we expect them to?
i hope you can turn the focus towards what really is worth turning the focus to - the rest will take care of itself
zig
me 46 H 38 M10yrs T 11 S10 BD ow 8/11 h filed 9/25/12
"if i could define enlightenment briefly, i would say it is the quiet acceptance of what is"
