Still on the border of Neverland

[AJM]

Hey Back. No, divorce can't bring him happiness. But he thinks it can. Or rather, he thinks changing things can and sees his only option as continuing what he started. He knows he is not happy although may not know why exactly. He is hoping it's because of you because then he can wrap that up in a nice neat package and be "happy".

It's sad to watch the trainwreck actually. Some do find happiness in some regard. But when you chase rainbows and butterflies, you find them to be fleeting in most cases. Sometimes years, sometimes moments.

You can't reason with him. He won't listen. You can calmly tell him this is not what you want, but that you wish him well. You can decide if you want to be friends or not. He'll say he wants to be, but it won't be easy.

He has to reach bottom and there is no telling where that is or when it will come. Or what he'll do about it.

Since my eyes were opened to this part of life, I've seen it happen many times from both genders. It's sad no matter how you slice it. Especially when you can see things differently and know it doesn't have to be like this.

It's like a sickness he doesn't want to get better from. Or rather, thinks he knows how he wants to get better from it and it doesn't include anyone familiar to him.

Take care of yourself and be calm. Over the long term, things can and do change including you. Be well and take care of you; he'll have to figure this out on his own.

AJ