Needing some guidance... 4

[reachingHigher]

jks, the therapist and your goals going into family therapy sound very balanced. I remember you said one of the "old neighbors" gave you a book you liked. It sounds like you value their opinion in the R area. It's so good to have that support.

Tough with S4's feelings. I remember when each of my boys were age 4 I was head-over-heels in love with them (still am--but now feel proud of them, as well as love). It hurts so much when they hurt. And your S4 is too little to understand.

Your children have you. You are always there for them, physically, emotionally. And they have your mom, assuming she's a rock like you are.

I think if S4 always has you, he'll be ok. He knows daddy loves him, right? Little boys can get some crazy ideas about all kinds of things as they sort their world out! My boys sometimes tell me "I used to think such-and-such when I was little" and it really surprises me.

We can get through this year, jks. We have support and advice and a place to rant -- here. We can do it! One day at a time. We are learning, growing. For ourselves. For our children. And for our H's, should they choose to come back.