I get it. I think we reach some folks where they are because we have been there.
Others not so much...
I think if I reach someone it is becuase it is from what I myself have experienced.
I naturally tend to advise the husbands but not always. I see folks who stuggle with detaching and I get that part. I struggled.
I see husbands who struggle with self esteem. I get how painful it is to be hurt by your spouse and what that does to the male psyche. I struggled with that.
I think universal is the idea that when you get here you are a victim of someone's bad behavior or choices.
One of the things that is so powerful about the community here is applying DB principlas to lift yourself out of that role. Take responsibility for your own happiness and not leave it in the hands of a WAS.
To stop being the victim.
Whether you were good or bad in your M it is for you to say and for you to change.
If you let your spouse be the excuse for not doing better then you are done.
If you let your spouse decide what you want, you are done.
So how do we pick teams?
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
