My husband and I are living apart now (an 8 hour drive). One of the things I'm concerned about is how we can ever work on us without seeing each other. How did you deal with the distance?
HBW,
Since you are on moderation, I missed your question on my thread.
I’m short on time, so I have to make this quick. The easy answer is I kept my schedule very active. There wasn’t much down time. Also, I worked on myself based on the complaints that my W had about me.
There isn’t much you can do about the distance. You still have contact with him, so there is still an avenue to interact with your H. Try to make every single interaction a positive one. Putting pressure on him will only push him away.
In your first post, you mentioned that you told your H not to allow FEAR to control him. Guess what you are doing?
You can’t talk your way out of something that you acted your way into. Actions speak louder than words. Time to get busy. If you want to work on the relationship, it starts with you. Figure out how you contributed to the demise of your marriage and begin fixing them. Show him that you are willing to make changes.
Have you read the Divorce Remedy?
Keep posting to keep us updated on how we can help and to get yourself off moderation.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
