Ok, so if I understand what you’re saying. Trying vs. actually doing, are completely different. It’s amazing how small variations with verbiage can make a huge difference, that makes sense. Do the 180’s and don’t point them out, period! If I am consistent with the 180’s over time, she will start to notice. She might even start to get mad because she will be wondering why I didn’t do those things when we were together but keep doing them. Am I on the right track?
Accuray, with your impressive input I am wondering if you received your PHD in Psychology? Just might have to give you the nickname, Yoda.
I have also been reading some of your posts on MAB1’s thread. Some of your suggestions that you recommended to him also apply to me and I am sure many others. I noticed you quoted some writing from the book Love Must Be Tough. That was actually the first book I read right before my W asked for a separation. What a great book! It helped out a lot with my self-esteem and confidence. It also gave me the knowledge to understand that I DO have more control over my sitch.
Accuray, I know I’ve complemented you quite a bit but you have a gift, an amazing gift. Myself and I bet many others are truly thankful for everything you’ve contributed.
Me(M):37 W:42 T: 14 M: 11 S: 1 D: 1 W wanted separation 5/5 Stopped living together 5/5
Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude. Thomas Jefferson
