Of course, now I wish I hadn't acted so (arguably) selfish with the money/asset issue, and I do feel bad about that.
I wouldn't feel bad about that. While he got angry about it, he probably likes the fact that you are standing up for yourself (especially if this is a 180). And even if he doesn't, you have to be good to you and do what is right, regardless how they react.
Good luck breakdown... get some sleep! You'll feel better afterwards. I was getting SO tired on my way home from work and wanted to nap when I got home but it's raining and people drive horribly in the rain so I don't even have time between now and dinner. You will be great, breakdown! I believe in you!
Thanks... I'll think about the facebook advice; unfortunately, there are a few people who I speak with only on facebook on a regular basis (a few international friends, as well). I'm not obsessively checking his facebook or anything, it just came up on my newsfeed. I was listening to a voicemail before and accidentally clicked on the one below and it was him from not even too long ago calling me baby and telling me how much he loved and missed me. I wish I hadn't heard that.
I left his birthday present for him when I left today. He saw them (they were just collared shirts) when he got home, and told me how much he appreciated them. I also did a little food shopping and he was appreciative of that too (even though most of the stuff is for me, heh). We made some small talk, it was polite enough.
Tonight I am going out with some friends to a Thai restaurant and then to watch some live music. Tomorrow there's the mermaid parade on Coney Island and then Sunday is new apartment lease signing day!
I made another appointment to speak with Chuck on Tuesday night, then I have individual counseling on Wednesday night.
I really want to make new friends. That's where I haven't been successful yet.
Anyway, it is still hard and I cried a little today. However, I feel better today certainly than I did even two weeks ago. So things can get better... slowly, they do.
Of course, now I wish I hadn't acted so (arguably) selfish with the money/asset issue, and I do feel bad about that.
I wouldn't feel bad about that. While he got angry about it, he probably likes the fact that you are standing up for yourself (especially if this is a 180). And even if he doesn't, you have to be good to you and do what is right, regardless how they react.
That's true. I am not usually assertive, but on the other hand, I guess I was often selfish. In the end, I got what I wanted/needed/should have gotten but I just wish I had discussed it more rationally.
I'm excited in some ways, but husband and I have been talking a lot about splitting up stuff and taking names off of shared things. It's really hard. He is helping me move and giving me a lot of stuff to take, which is nice, and is letting me come back to the apartment to do my laundry and stuff. It is so confusing.
I'm excited in some ways, but husband and I have been talking a lot about splitting up stuff and taking names off of shared things. It's really hard. He is helping me move and giving me a lot of stuff to take, which is nice, and is letting me come back to the apartment to do my laundry and stuff. It is so confusing.
Hang in there! It's really hard, and confusing for sure...but you're doing so good. Stay strong!
Wow, so I left my computer where I normally do and we had discussed swapping laptops, since his is bigger, and I said sure. He started doing the backup and I had this website open and an email with a boy I've been talking to open, and I have a strange suspicious he has seen that I've been reading this site and talking to other guys...
He talked to his mom the other day and was talking about how horrible my mother is and how he is "thankful that [he] will never have to talk to her again."
