I note some defensiveness in your response. Something must have hit a nerve. Being defensive means you shut down the thinking part of your brain and start reacting. Let that go, it won't serve you well in this journey you're on.

We're all human, we all make mistakes, we've all been where you are.

We get how difficult this is.

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which part..? my trying to be a "fixer" all the time or her Mom ALWAYS making me feel inadequate as a husband and father...?


You tell me.

And how does her Mom make you feel inadequate, or anything, for that matter?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss