Needing some guidance... 4

[Accuray]

Can I just ask you, Accuray... what would you do if you were me? Do you really think I need to give it more time?

JKS, there's no way I can answer that for you. I'm happy to support you in whatever you decide.

That might seem like a cop-out to you, but there's no way I can understand what you're going through or the pain you are in and having to endure week to week. For me to tell you to give it more time would be irresponsible -- it's easy for me to say that because I don't have to live with the pain of doing so. I can empathize with your situation, and I understand SOME of the associated pain, but I have not walked in your shoes -- my kids are older, I work full time, my W didn't move in with OM, etc. etc.

All I can say is to make the decision for you, without worrying about what anyone will think, because no matter what you decide they will accept it -- they'll have to, and things WILL get better.

The other thing I'll say is that our emotions tend to ride the rollercoaster. Some days we'll think we're going to be fine and we're ready to take on the world, other days the sky is falling and it feels like a catastrophe. On those painful days we're often tempted to make radical changes to try to stop the pain. If you agree with this, then whatever you decide, give yourself a week, a month, whatever so that you make sure to consider your decision in both a peak and a valley, you don't want to look back with regret and think that you were hasty because you were at a low.

I spent some time reading LITB's story from the beginning, you might want to do that. His W left him with his kids and moved 1,100 miles away to be with OM. It took about 18 months before that burned out and she decided she's like to reconcile, but from my read she didn't reconsider until he had dropped the rope completely. Then she started to see him in a new light. Read his story if you have time.

Sorry I can't be more helpful on this one!

Accuray