I think it's generally good to make the WAS do all the work to end the marriage. The "piece of paper" that results at the end of the D process doesn't necessarily need to be tied to HopingAndPraying's timeline. She can move forward with her life and stop trying to put her marriage back together whenever she wants, and STILL let H file and do all the work.
I would think the only time it's going to become an issue is if she wants to get married again and he still hasn't filed.
Accuray
Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11 Start Reconcile: 8/15/11 Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced) In a New Relationship: 3/2015
