Also, if you suffer from "Nice Guy" issues, there are two good books written just for you that many on this forum have found valuable:

"No More Mr. Nice Guy"
"Hold Onto Your N.U.T.S."

Both are available as ebooks

"No More Mr. Nice Guy" is not what the title may imply, it's not telling you to become a bully. It's a book written for guys who fall victim to a particular dynamic of "giving to get", making "covert contracts", etc. Worth a read

Accuray

Married 18, Together 20, Now Divorced
M: 48, W: 50, D: 18, S: 16, D: 12
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 7/13/11
Start Reconcile: 8/15/11
Bomb Dropped (EA, D): 5/1/2014 (Divorced)
In a New Relationship: 3/2015