This situation is horribly difficult. When you're thinking of filing for D, what are you looking for? Really it may not change your sitch for the better at all, but I'm curious what you're looking to get out of it. If you're looking for closure, I don't know that a finalized D will deliver that for you, as closure is really a state of mind. If you're looking for a reaction from H, he may not react the way you want him to and then what have you gained? I'm not saying not to file, I just want to make sure it's going to accomplish whatever goal you have in mind.
Accuray
I know that if we were D'd I would definitely look at the situation differently. The reminder that we're still married and, oh, yeah, H still wants to be married while he dates his girlfriend is just so confusing to me. I don't get it. I don't know how to just be here and let it be.
It just feels like something needs to happen in order for things to progress. I would never file in hopes that H would change his mind and leave her. Because deep down, I think he really wants to choose her. (I mean, he already has.) But he doesn't have the balls to do it.
I feel guilty hanging out with other guys because I morally don't feel good about that decision. But I would like not to care. If I were D'd, I wouldn't care. It gives me a way to move on.
Me: 32 H: 32 M 9 yrs #1 D7 #2 S5 #3 D2 Bomb 8/12/11 H moved out 8/14/11 PA started w/H & OW in 1/12 - found out 3/24/12 Got my own place 8/25/12 H & OW move in together 9/15/12 Still married.
