You can make your H aware of it, however go in without any expectations. Remember that he is living in a fantasy and it is likely that he feels that your children will be fine.
I wouldn’t call it a boundary, because there isn’t a way to enforce it. It is something that is out of your control.
Originally Posted By: reachingHigher
But it seems like if your H is such a nice guy, having the draw of three sweet children and a knockout wife with such a strong and sweet personality, that one day he'll wake up and come back! After all, he fell in love with you once, right?
Maybe you shouldn't decide to file, while under the influence of the (perfectly understandable) anger. Maybe just try to let it go a little bit. Get back to your "happy place".
This is great advice. You will find that with time, just like your H, your feelings will change. Unless an A is the so-called nail in the marital coffin, I would suggest to not make an emotional decision. If there is any doubt at all about filing, don’t do it.
Originally Posted By: reachingHigher
Are you able to take the kids to a new place this weekend? A new park? A new playground? A new museum? Something different?
Great questions. Make new memories and start new traditions with your children. They will remember. It will help keep your mind busy doing great things.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
