Thanks Truegritter, I have gotten a lot of good advice in the last few days and while some on it not easy to hear it has been very helpful. I agree with you on the ring and I choose to wear it. One I am not done and don't intend to give up so easily. The next time I take it off it will be because I am ready to and basically done with this M. I still feel like we are supposed to be together. She is so focused on the negatives in the past and I am a bit jaded in that I only remember how good we were together. She has some things she needs to work on and I have a lot of my own issues to work on before that part has a chance at moving forward.
Again thank you and the others for jumping in and pointing the way. Not easy trying to find ones way through this nightmare.
M-45 W-44 2D - 11&13 2SS - 11&17 Married 10/10/10 Bomb 3/5/12 Moved 5 houses away 4/20/12 Back together 9/12 Seperated 6/13 Divorce Final 11/13/13