Quote: I've thought a lot about Ellie's suggestion about being out of town when and if he comes back... but my gut tells me it is not a good idea. Part of what lead to this mess is my infinite ability to go my own way in pursuit of my personal and proffessional interests, and what you can call my total independence... He does not need to be reminded that I can move on without him. He knows that well.
If that's the case, then you are probably right. Most people have the opposite problem of being perceived by the WAS as too needy or clingy. Still, get your D out and about doing some fun things locally, so she will be distracted.
