i am a little lost here in terms of telling her what has worked or not worked. i can't tell anything that's worked - because lately he has withdrawn so much, and where as we used to at least talk before, now he's quit almost completely. lately he has become so skittish, that i have to stay really backed off hard.
^that's fine to say. I was speaking more generally. You can just tell her what you've done and what happened in response to that. She'll be able to guide you to further suss everything out. Trust the process
I did my 3 sessions, just finished this week. I ended up doing 6 weeks between the 1st and 2nd, and then 1 month between the 2nd and 3rd, but how often you do yours will depend on your situation. I scheduled mine around "events" that happened (1st one before a vacation, 2nd one right after H filed, 3rd one a little while after I'd been served). I don't have any immediate plans to do more but that could change. (We're in the midst of the 90-day cooling off period before anything can be finalized. Cheryl & I talked about what it would take for me to feel like I saw some change b/c he still wants to be friends, and I am left only with him putting the brakes on the D process/house sale. So for now I'm just monitoring the situation.) Obviously every situation is different. Your coach will be able to help you navigate things especially with your S involved.
Be sure to report back and let us know how it goes
