I asked her to show some tough love and not buy everything under the sun for W and new apartment...
Not only broke a rule but a showed a general lack of respect. It sounds as if you want to be more of a father than an equal partner.
It's difficult when in our perception, it seems others may be "bailing out" our wayward spouses. This is where detachment works, what she does and who "helps" her isn't your concern. This is her life now.
Maybe this was a problem during the marriage?
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
