Managed to talk this morning for about an hour....pretty good discussion, though it's not the stuff I really wanted to hear. Well, I will say that she took some responsibility for where we are, and I think that may be a first, so that's a baby step in my mind. She's willing to continue thru the retrovaille program, but we're going to sit down this weekend and start working thru the separation scenario so that we both know what will happen if nothing changes.
I've told her numerous times that I'm not rushing her, that she can take all the time she needs to work thru this. I have tried to set some ground rules like communicating evening plans and no more using divorce talk as a weapon. She hasn't really respected them though. So I found it slightly funny this morning that she wanted to set a boundary for separation that I don't see anyone else. That's really the last thing I want, so it's kinda weird that she mentioned it.
One thing I wanted to get some input on was living arrangements during separation. Neither of us can really move out, as we are house poor atm. The way I see it, we have two choices....move into separate rooms or try to make a one week on, one week off scenario work with one of us staying with family on our week off. Is it better for reconciliation to go one way or the other? I'm kinda leaning towards the later because I think it'll give her space to work thru her stuff, and I won't constantly be walking on eggshells. Additionally, once we're out of this house, we'll most likely be doing an every other week deal with the kids, though we'll have two households then. Thoughts?
