Dear Nblost I have been married twice. In both marriages i was cheated on. In the first marriage, which was a total of 5yrs,(affair was 4yrs into m) my h told me he would not give up the OW so I kicked him out. We had a 1 yo son. He moved in with OW for awhile I think and then with his parents. Later the affair ended and I gave him a chance to work towards the marriage. For starters, to get a job. He had a poor work history and lied about things. Well he lied to me and said he was going to school and even wore a lab coat over to my house and gave me a big story about school which turned out to be false. This was over the course of about a year. By then I was done. In the second marriage which is my current one (23yrs) my husband is going thru a MLC. He insists he is not seeing OW now. If I was to find out that he was, I would have him leave. I would NOT introduce my children to her. But you know what? My husband did introduce 2 of my children to her at her old historic church where she is on the parish counsel (what a great gal!) She also happens to be a coworker and H said he this was before he had the affair. Also introduced me at a christmas party which he said was before the affair. I think your counselor is spot on. Your H must leave.
