Remember that your friends just want to defend you. They can't really be very objective.
The temptation here, of course, is to ASSume things about where your H is and what he's doing. The problem when you ASSume is that you seldom consider all the possibilities. - He could be gallivanting around the world with the OW and just forgot to give you the correct return date. - He could have gone on a trip with the OW and right now might be learning what a miserable person she really is and missing you desperately. - He could be in South America conducting a drug deal so he can buy himself out of the mess he's made of his life. - He could be sitting in a cabin in the mountains with a gun to his head thinking about how he just can't face up to the mess when all the lies he has told you and the OW come out. - He could have taken the mothership back to the home planet for a reinfusion of alien bug juice
You just can't know. I suppose you could snoop and find some things out (like where was the call made from that cancelled the credit card? Or call and report HIS cards stolen?). But here's another approach - what if YOU weren't home when he got home? What if you and D were gone on a fabulous weekend trip (why not take her to Disneyland?). H is expecting you to be there when he gets home - what if you aren't? You could just leave a little note - "sorry, thought you were going to be back before we left, couldn't reach you to tell you. Gone out of town, back in a few days "(don't tell him WHEN!). Then you go and have fun and quit thinking about him - and get your D's mind off of him too.
