So this morning I decided that I just am not to that point. I am still married and still very much in love with my W and hopeful for the future. I don't really care what she or others might think. Next time I take it off it will be because I am done.
A lot has happened here since you posted this and I have been off the boards.
I see my friends have joined you here...
Your ring is a symbol BUT not in the sense that you used to think. At least for me it became something different.
Instead of what it showed the outside world I saw it as a testament, a prize for what I was struggling toward.
I took mine off. I struggled with what did that say to others? My W?
I decided. F@ck em. My marriage was dead. Not over but dead. A new one was my goal or a new me. One would mean I would put that ring back on
WHEN I WAS READY TO DO IT.
If you want to quit then make sure you are doing it for your own reasons not becuase someone made you do it.
It is a difference between letting life and another's choice condemn you (victim and an excuse not take responsibility for your own happiness)
or
Surviving and thriving because you decided to do it.
No excuses.
Sometimes it takes standing in the fire of hurt and rejection to understand what love really means.
And how to love and take care of yourself.
That is no one else's responsiblity BUT yours.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
