I guess I can be here now 2

[25yearsmlc]

May

I'll be in that area then. I would love to meet up.
I think you're doing great, and would enjoy buying you something tasty or just chatting. There is a LOT to offer here. Plus, I promise you no rain. And I like babies!
(I'm in alt universe and Kaffe Diem knows how to reach me.)

***FYI***

If you have the chance to go to another spot, Universal studios will also entertain the baby AND it's a ton more fun for adults, IF you can swing that.

Secondly, Regardless of which theme park you are going to, or all of them,

If you're going to do it and you know you only have ONE day there,

then I urge you spring the extra bucks for the "fast pass" that separates the lines so you have a much shorter line to wait in. OFten you'll have NO wait with a fast pass.

You will see much more and wait in line much much less. With small kids it can make the difference between a lovely fun day and memory (even if it's not one of her memories, it'll be one of yours)

OR an ordeal to endure.

I've been taking our kids or their cousins to Disneyland or Universal or Busch Gardens or Magic Moutain ETC for decades now.

Here's the difference in one example.
Went to King's Dominion theme park in Williamsburg VA,& it cost us today's equivalent of nearly $200 for h, me and the 2 kids we had then.

It was a HOT day, lines were long, and I was in line A LOT. In total, I went on THREE rides. That's in over 10 hours May...wth? My did 4. The kids needed breaks and water and food and bathrooms but most of it was standing in line in 90'F heat and humidity (which at least won't bother you here).

The next year we went again, but went for the "Fast Pass". Cost an extra 20% to the admission.

THAT DAY I saw a short funny show & I went on eleven rides and wandered around exploring (w/our portable buzzer) or eating, while our number was coming up for the next ride.
What a difference.

Also check out The Getty or the beach or Santa Monica Pier-all kid friendly and uber stimulating. OR maybe Val can steer you in a SHOW"BIZ" type of dealio, though I know your little cutie potootie is just 14 months now? She's walking and picking things up and SEEING THE WORLD...so cool...

what a time in her/your life.

Don't let the other stuff, some of which is puny in terms of importance,

pollute the rest of the picture.

Do not Imagine that your life is a painting that USED to be oh so pretty but thanks to the marital problems, you see a big fat stain on it like a glass of wine tossed on the canvas...

Instead, see it as a lovely intricate tapestry with lots of weaves and textures and colors.

Sometimes you have to back off to get a better view, the more holistic and accurate view, to see the beauty of the work in progess...

((( )))

PS

So Sorry about the thesis. My respect for Ivory Tower "dweebs" may not help you but then again, maybe it will. The first time I took the bar exam was just after our first child's (son's) birth. I was a foolish Superwoman Imposter. I failed it. So when it was next offered, SIX months later, I asked h to take time off so HE could be with son b/c I didn't seem able to leave him with a sitter to study. Not motivated enough? Missed him too much and all that. In short, I was not ready.

But come summer, I HAD To pass it or law school was not going to have been worth it. I did not know how many times my head/heart could gear up for it but I also knew I had NOT done enough the first time around b/c I was too new a mom.

So H took nearly a month off (probably the only time in his career that option existed) and he & son went out ALL day and really bonded. It was really good for them. I did better than pass the bar. My national scores were high enough to waive into any state. My point is this was a setback for you, but I think you were too enmeshed in the Superwoman syndrome. Been there, done that. My "plan" back when, was to "graduate from law school in May, have a baby in June, take the bar exam in July and begin my new job in August."

I actually bought into that^^!.

The baby was not expected but I did not THINK I had to change or adapt to it except, "oh, gain weight, give birth, lose weight...and go back to life as it was".

I was wrong, and I'm so glad!

But What a difference it makes when you are focussed and not exhausted by other circumstances.


Maybe we can talk about your thesis, or babies, DB stuff or ----good COMEDY and rides. You choose and I promise to listen!

((( )))