I don't know if this is the DB way to go, and am sure others will have much better advice, but maybe it's worth talking with H about some boundaries with kids and OW? they are still so little and it is confusing enough as it is.

Maybe something along the lines of no PDA in front of them ( I mean when they are with them his focus is on them anyway), because it confuses the children. If your H knew that it confuses them/makes them sad I am sure he would understand. I am sure he wouldn't want to make it harder on them than it already is.


Jks you know I Know how you are feeling. Its physically sickening and mind boggling. The.most.painful.thing.in.the.world

But we have to absorb much of that pain for our kids. In fact much of the time we have to act as if not just for our H's but for our children as well.

Face the mages in your head, feel the pain and disgust and let it go. Its not in your control right now.

(((( ))))) so many hugs right now

TPS
Me: 44 H: 42
M14 T17
S10 D7
10/10 H moves out after death of his father-same month
21/04/12 H is 'DONE'
04/05/12 OW/PA confirmed (rumors from 2010)
July '14 H ends affair
May '15 H moves back home