How many licks does it take...?

[2thepoint]

Thanks for the posts and virtual support. I really appreciate it!

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Time for a couple updates:

S10's baseball team played in the city finals on Wednesday. I really hoped that they'd win the game but it wasn't in the cards. The final score was 5-7. I was so proud of him and the team though! Maybe next year!

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After the game I left on a trip to conduct some business and enjoy a few days with some friends. This morning I was awakened by a text from my W informing me that she had heard from the insurance company regarding the accident she was involved in a few weeks back. Her text said that the other party had hired a lawyer and was suing for injuries sustained in the accident and that she was also found to have been at fault.

After a little back and forth between us she goes on to say that the insurance company said that the other party sustained only minor bumps and bruises. That they'd be covering it all and would send us letters informing of the status. Then she said "I give up."

I just used the opportunity to validate as much as possible and make sure that there was not even a hint of blame or "tone" in my texts. I reassured her that accidents happen and that is why we have insurance. I also reminded her that the other party had refused medical treatment at the scene and are probably just looking for a quick little windfall and not to worry about.

Since she had also said previously that she wanted to have her eyes checked and maybe change her prescription, I asked, "have you thought anymore about getting an eye exam?" She said that yes, she needed to set an appointment for that and also to meet with a regular family doctor regarding slow response due to her illness and heart problems from a few months back. I validated and encouraged her to mark it in her calendar so she doesn't forget and she agreed.

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So here is my W again reaching out to me on matters that really don't affect me. I often wonder if she is doing this simply as a means to maintain some contact, or because she really believes it is important that I be informed of these type matters. Regardless, I try to remain as detached as possible and am usually the first to cut off contact after specifics have been addressed.

I think I need to be even more detached and unavailable. At least until such time that she sends some signal that she wants to work on the M. Meanwhile, I'm glad to be away for the next several days away from the sitch and with friends that care about me.