Her personality completely changed. Years back, my brother used to say to my mom: "It looks luck Tad was the lucky one. He got the good wife." Well, maybe I didn't.
She is in such a fog right now, but like Brookie said, it is her reality. It is what it is.
I am currently seeing three ladies and one of them is absolutely gorgeous (former top 5 for Ms. Arizona). But.......there is nothing there for me feelings wise. Nothing. Absolutely nothing. I still feel like I've spent the last 25 years being lied to.
Tad
meaning, people don't change? They/we cannot change?
B/c apparently either you and the whole world was fooled by your wife
or she changed.
Which is more likely?
So now, cope with the reality of THAT.
As for not feeling anything for women who look good, so what? You're not in the state of mind that allows you to feel safe at all.
Some folks in your shoes would only date OPs they KNOW won't leave them b/c they (ie the OPs) are not desirable. So they date losers b/c they think they are "safer". Not true btw.
Others want to "prove" themselves worthy and date the best looking or youngest around, to impress the spouse that left them.
Neither approach is healthy OR fair to the new people. If you are not ready, then so be it.
Better for you to take your time and eventually ultimately develop a lasting HAPPY r
than whiz through 3 meaningless or hurtful failed r's just to be in one asap.
Heal yourself Tad.
I swear/promise, only YOU can do this. And YOU CAN. Choose.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
