Opt, I want to ring your H's neck for doing this to you.! (sorry)If this is a test, does your D deserve to be a part of it?
These guys really kill me with the stuff they pull. Your obviously has things to work through-I hope he's working on them.
If he does not come home then he's not worthy of you, and you deserve love and repect Opt. Your doing great-your D is very lucky to have you as her Mommy. Rachael