"Also, I would suggest that you talk to your kids. Ask them how they feel. Just because your W is rug-sweeping doesn't mean that you should too."
Your W may or may not be telling your kids anything. Overall, she's not being honest with herself and everyone else. Rather than realizing that there is a problem, she self-medicates with another guy. She sweeps the problems under the rug and fills her thoughts with external stimuli to keep her mind off of it.
In her mind that's fine, but your kids feel the tension going on. You don't want them to draw their own conclusions and figure things out on their own. You have to show them that you are there to give them love and support, regardless if they want it or not.
When you don't allow them to discuss their fears and anxieties about their family breaking out, they start thinking that it's their fault or it's something that YOU did which is why you're leaving.
Initially my kids were like that and tried to put up a brave front by telling me nothing was wrong. But I could sense it. I slowly learned how to talk to them so that they opened up a little at a time. Let your boys know that their father is there for them. The will look up to you for that.
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