If the ONLY reason she's not with OM is that you are occupying her every day, then you don't have much.

If you make choices out of fear, that's not good.

Be the best you there is and let the chips fall.

Adinva 51, S20, S18
M24 total
6/15/11-12/1/12 From IDLY to H moving out
9/15/15-3/7/17 From negotiating SA to final D at age 50
5/8/17-now: New relationship with an old friend
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Happiness is a warm puppy.