Thanks for stopping by! I haven't posted much lately as I wanted to make sure I wasn't getting ahead of myself, and wanted to see where the progress we've been having would take us.
Well, H finally agreed to erase OW from all sources of contacts...FB, LinkedIn, phone. Yesterday, he was on his work laptop using Skype. Without thinking really, I asked him if he had deleted her from Skype as well. He hadn't....said that he forgot. But he did a couple of minutes later.
For me personally, this step was necessary in beginning to heal from what happened. I feel that now I'm ready to put that behind me, to stop obsessing and being sad about it. I feel that now I am finally able to look to the future.
I know that we still have some work cut out for us. We need to learn better communication and conflict resolution skills. Every day I try to be mindful of the things he had a problem with. I try to make sure that he feels valued, needed, loved. I want to make sure that he feels that his opinion counts. I don't want to get too comfortable with how things are going. I know we're not done. I don't want to slip back into old habits.
H is not ready for MC yet, and my IC said yesterday that maybe we won't need it. So we'll see. All in all, I am very pleased and thankful with how things are going. We're kind to each other, affectionate, intimate. We try to spend more "us" time by going out to dinner or doing something else at least once a week. We check in with each other throughout the day. Day by day we're hopefully getting closer to a new kind of relationship. Oh, and we got a cat about a month ago
