Here is my fear and I would appreciate advice: W invites me to do something. I say no. And it isn't saying no as a game. I haven't worked out in a few days because I have been doing things with the W. I really want to workout and do some GAL for me.
The fear is that the W wants to do something with me. I decline so she calls OM. By saying no, I open the door for OM. It is almost like playing defense. If she is with me, she can't be with him.
Yep, I get that fear. It comes from a controlling place and is a sign that we are not fully detached. You can't live your life worrying that you not wanting to do anything with her will drive her to OM.
Do the GAL for you. Go to the gym.
If you tell your W no, she may or may not call OM. Either way, you can't control it. But you're not doing yourself any favors by assuming the worst.
