Thank you again, everybody for checking on me. I am keeping as busy as I can and try not to overanalyze things or make assumptions, but sometimes it is difficult to keep your mind from wandering...
Anyway, to answer your question, Pam, yes, he could be trying me, though it feels as a rather cruel test. Actually in one of his posts to my old thread, CHL suggested something about tests... I wonder how much he suspected about this... but neither here nor there.
Quote: Understandable. (Well, at least to me.) He's telling you that he's not involved with OW at this point. He's also saying that he can't/won't return to a life like he was living before. He's trying at this point to decide what his best course of action is. It's very important at this point for you to continue showing him that the changes are real. Don't be surprised if he "tests" you at this point.
It's easy to forget that the WAS is hurting also. He wants to make sure he's not returning to a situation that's going to cause him more pain. It's kind of a self-defense mechanism. When he's debating what he wants to do, it's very important that you keep DB'ing. It's important at this point for him to see that the changes are real.
But the other, alternative explanation, that he has really decided against trying again and is getting her cards ready to proceed with separation and divorce is also quite possible. It would explain the address changes, the house, the cc, the lack of contact...
Anyway, Rachel is absolutely right: I cannot control him, I can only control myself. And I refuse to torture myself any more than I have to. So I am trying to avoid that track of thought as much as I can.
I am taking my child to skate and dance class today, and then to Chick Fil A. She had a very tough time going to sleep last night because she missed her Daddy and remembered him...
Still swimming...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
