She texted me and invited me to a weekly event downtown that she has been wanting to go to for a long time.
She asked "Do you want to go with me?".
I should have responded "You know I do, but you know why I can't"
Instead, I responded "You know I do".
We end up going and the place is packed. We head to a quiet lounge to have a couple of glasses of wine and a bite to eat. Really good conversation. Laughter. No R talk.
She brought up her concerns from the past (my work schedule, not wanting to do anything because of the kids or money). We talked about how my schedule is much better and how the kids are older now so we can do more things. Then she kissed me. A real kiss.
She then laughed about she was shanghai-ing me. It was a joke between us when she used to ask me to do something and it would turn into many hours. She said she wanted to go look at a puppy she saw online that was over an hour away. Entire time in the car was great.
At the end of the night when I walked her to her car, I had to ask. So I said "What is up with you and him?" She responded "Not so much". I told her when it becomes "Not at all", we can start working on this and she will get all of me. She said she would like that because she is liking what she gets of me now.
I have heard it many times on here: OM = No you.
However, I have also heard to do 180s. My 180s would be spending time with her, doing things (trips, outings, etc).
I think we are moving in the right direction. The detach and GAL did wonders. I just need to slow it down.
M-40 W-33 D3, D4, SD13 T 9 YEARS M 5 YEARS ILYBINILWY APRIL 2012
