Ok Opt.... Time to pick yourself off the floor and get on with your life.... Nothing has changed. He just extended his vacation.. he hasnt cleared his head yet and just needs a little more time. So get off your duff and write us and let us know your alright.. Coach....
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
Well, another day is over and still no news. My daughter said today that Daddy told her he'd come back on Friday, but did not know which Friday. I stupidly mentioned we had passed two Fridays already and she was very sad. She has been terribly clingy and insecure all weekend, refusing to get out of the house and pleading tiredness... Totally unlike her, btw.
I guess he did tell OW's daughters the truth and he is not coming back until the 17th.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Optimist! Are our aliens out together or what? Mine came home from work for Christmas and had 3 weeks vacation...we had talked and decided no vacation ...work on house and do family oriented Christmas in new home...yeah, right. Before he came home ..he called me supposedly from work...caller ID was a woman named Amy's cell phone number...yes I called it back...anyway..make a long story short...He left Dec 27 saying he was going on vacation for a week and has not been back since..only left me 200 dollars and has to be at work on the 13th....
I am prepared for D now. I want him to file...so he has to pay for it.....I am in the do nothing phase...but am going to get storage and put some of my things away...so he can not try to claim them...I have no money...but do have food and shelter....do have four hundred dollars emergency money he doesn't know about...while he took a thousand dollars out for vacation....he had me removed from his account as he was primary...it was not a joint account....so I am f**cked....basically. He has really screwed me over this time but good. At least you are independent and strong....HUGS... If I can stay strong and sober through this...and I HAVE...you can handle your sitch ....you are worth it...you are an awesome woman and he doesn't know what he is messing up....his loss.....if he doesn't wise up soon..... I am job hunting now...and hope to find something anything soon....need to become independent...will even consider welfare if need be...for a while....my H is a loser abuser and I am better off without him...only a miracle would bring us back together.... I have a great love in my life today besides my son and that is God....He gives me strength to go forward despite all the pain....He comforts and guides me....He is always there and He knows what is best for me...even when I don't...there is something better ahead....I just have to be patient....God bless OPTIMIST>>>>>hugs Akgal...
Very inspiring Angel. Optimist, You will get through this too. The waiting has to be the hardest part. My heart goes out to you for the insensitive your H is treating you and your D. It's totally his loss if he leaves. They say they always realize that later. I guess that's the payback. We move on and they are left regretting what they've done for the rest of their sorry lives.
Hang tough Opt. We are all here to lift you up and you will NOT fall. Rachael
Well, another day came and went without any news... His sister called this morning and asked if I had had any... she is starting to worry... I told her what his office people had said...
It sounds weird, I know, but I guess that if I haven't had any news by Fri I'll have to call the police or something... I do not relish the idea of calling OW's house to ask for my H...
I do think it was all a trick to go away with her... Well, I tried... and we'll see soon enough.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Honesty, sincerity, tenderness and trust. A little less time for the rest of the world, And more for the two of us. Kisses each mornin, I love yous at night, Just like it used to be.
I was wondering do you suppose it is a test? You had specifically mentioned the 15th so he extends his time away till deliberately after the 15th without telling you he is going to do so to see how you will respond?
Just wondering, trying to make some sense out of what is going on in your sitch.
