Thanks for taking the time to catch up on my mess. I agree that even if I get full custody, my XW will still be doing anything and everything she can to make sure no one around her is happy. I need to figure out how to set boundries with her and not fall into the traps I have in the past. I do think having full custody will make those boundries a little easier to set in place.
I have tried to step it up with her boys and I realize that I failed my W and them. So yes I get that now and guess I have been so "desperate" to fix things I have not taken the time to understand what I really need to do.
I am very greatful to all th folks who have offered words of encouragment, advice and a good ars kicking when need.
M-45 W-44 2D - 11&13 2SS - 11&17 Married 10/10/10 Bomb 3/5/12 Moved 5 houses away 4/20/12 Back together 9/12 Seperated 6/13 Divorce Final 11/13/13