It seems you're saying you can't afford to move out and continue to financially support your family

And you W doesn't have a job if I'm reading correctly.

It seems your plan is meant to fail unless there's more that you aren't telling.

Can your W move somewhere?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss